JILL SMOLOWE

Official website of Jill Smolowe, author of "Four Funerals and A Wedding" and "An Empty Lap"

DIVORCE COACHING

The only constant in our lives is change.

When divorce disrupts the relationships and routines that give our days stability and meaning, we may find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, unmotivated, even bereft. Absent strong support and acknowledgment, we may lose sight of our strengths, our goals, our dreams. As optimism and resilience give way to worry and inertia, we can land up feeling adrift — or just plain stuck.

How Can a Divorce Coach Help?

The coaching process is designed to help you access your instincts and strengths to restore optimism, purpose and momentum to your life. As your coach, I come to our sessions with an open mind and an ear attuned to the one person who knows best how to get your life moving again: you. Together, we focus on helping you to:

    • • Create a vision for the future
      • Design — then take — specific steps to turn your vision into your new reality
      • Identify what thoughts and assumptions stand between you and that dream

    • As your goals become clear, your focus shifts from what’s “missing” in your life to the pursuit and realization of new possibilities. With each step forward, you feel your confidence reviving, your sense of purpose rebuilding, your joy rekindling. Not only is your life moving again — it is heading in a direction that you have chosen with care and by mindful design.

    How Does Coaching Differ From Therapy?

    Classic therapy is an archaeological dig that looks backward to help you understand how you got to this moment. Coaching is an architectural blueprint that looks to the future to help you create something new. Taken from the word “stagecoach,” the coaching process is designed to take you from one point to the next. You pick the destination, then in partnership with your coach you move from where are now to where you want to be.

    How Can I Learn More?

    Via phone and Skype, I work with people across the U.S., and in Europe, Southeast Asia, the Middle East and Central America. If you’d like to explore how we can work together to shift the focus in your life from endings to new beginnings, contact me at jillsmolowe@gmail.com.